Many people say, “It’s just sex.” If this is used to combat the dogma and shame that has been placed on sex then this can be a positive line.
However, it can be so much more than “just sex”. Sexual interaction can be healing, transformative and pleasurable beyond what most people consider to be "great sex".
I call this “sacred sex” vs. “just sex”. The difference is similar to dog food vs a five star meal, but I’m going to take it further than that.
With sacred sex we have access to one of the most powerful, connective, fulfilling and mystical experiences as humans.
Sex is a very important aspect of romantic relationship but it is not just something we do with our clothes off.
Our society has a very long way to go in order to understand the depth of what sex, or rather making love, can be.
Here’s something that might brighten your day: romance DOES NOT need to die in a relationship. It does not have to be just a phase.
One of the problems is that people generally do not know how to fully access or sustain the space of romance. The erotic space of soul sex is foreign to most people - "soul what?", you may be asking.
Couples turn to sex toys, new positions, other partners and many other mediums to stimulate that sexual connection, only to find that it is artificial and short lived- if not disconnective.
Many other people simply give up and decide to listen to the masses who say that romance fades away and is only a phase.
My goal as a teacher of sacred sex is to take people further into connection and pleasure with their partners and themselves, as well as to elevate the consciousness of each individual through the process.